Special Guest Expert - Moira Ní Ghallachóir

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Brigitta Hoeferle:
How many times have you said to yourself, I'm going to succeed? And yet you keep coming up short? You probably noticed that high achievers with heart do things differently, but you just can't put your finger on it. You're curious about why high achievers accomplish more and have more satisfying relationships. It's because success is the result of your mindset and the consistent actions you take. This show is designed with your success in mind by revealing these powerful patterns of our dynamic individuals and guest experts, you can model what they do and apply to your future success now. Let's roll up our sleeves and get started. My name is Brigitta Hoeferle and this is the Success Patterns Show. Happy Tuesday, everyone. Here is the Golden Nugget. Success patterns are more valuable than ideas. Let me explain. Ideas are powerful and they require trial and error and a lot of time to actually put that into action. Think about manufacturing. First you have an idea, then a proof of concept, then a working prototype, then a small production batches, and then finally a full scale production. This takes months, maybe even years. And you may have met some people that are collectors of ideas and do little else. Forget everything that you know about ideas that you've heard about ideas. You're not looking for ideas. You are looking for success patterns. Success patterns are different and success patterns are better. Why? Well, success patterns are proven. Have a logical sequence of steps to follow, have an action imperative and deliver consistent results. In today's content rich program, you're going to learn valuable success patterns from our very special guest. And we're going to talk about letting it go. She is an expert of letting go. Her name is Mara Moret, and she helps female entrepreneurs who are stuck, bored and ready for much higher level of success to create a luxurious life and a lucrative business they love without working harder. Myra has left her job as a youth worker to follow her dream of running her own business, starting literally from nothing. And she grew her coaching business to $100,000 in 12 months. And then she went to speak on stages worldwide and created $3 million with her coaching business. So let's talk about lifestyle, freedom and letting go. Thank you for being on the show. Hello, Moira. Hi.

Moira Ní Ghallachóir:
Thank you for having me. Brigitta.

Brigitta Hoeferle:
I am so glad that you are here and I am excited to talk about this very important topic. And it's it almost seems like that today's show kind of puts a beautiful bow on what I have been experiencing with my own clients the past eight, eight days, including today, nine days. And there's a desire of. Wanting to let go and. It's hard.

Moira Ní Ghallachóir:
Mhm.

Brigitta Hoeferle:
How was it for you? Like tell us a little bit your journey of letting go and it's, it's, it's levels deep.

Moira Ní Ghallachóir:
It is so deep. Brigitta It's because we're. We're just so attached to who we are and our beliefs and our stories and our past. And also the it's like the evidence that we have from our lives, from our business, from our relationships, from money, from the success that we've achieved. We're so attached to it and being able to let go of that so we can let newness come come into our lives so we can become something else, so we can become more of who we are. It's not easy for people and but it's easier than putting up with being stuck, bored and unmotivated in your business. And I think this is the key because it's hard either way. And most people are living with hard right now. It's hard either way. And there's nothing easy about creating success. It can get easier. But, you know, this is like we've chosen something that is going to stretch us and, you know, like, you know, I know this is this is a journey of personal development When you get into your own business, like, you know, it's not just about, you know. What's it like doing marketing and sales and things like that, But having to do that, it brings up a lot. It brings up a lot of worthiness questions. It brings up a lot of shame, a lot of doubt, a lot of fear. What will people think? And oh my gosh, like just so much for people. But who we become by dealing with that is the person who can actually let go of the past.

Brigitta Hoeferle:
Hmm. Interesting who we become when we let go. So I think you're an expert in in, in in talking about this, not just because you claim yourself to be an expert and you have you have some credentials to support that claim. When we announced you being on the show and we announced you for the probably the past week or so, we announced you with a different name. And I personally have been practicing that last name for an entire day. And you let go of that name. Tell us more about that. This is fascinating.

Moira Ní Ghallachóir:
I certainly did let go of that. And you know, it's funny because I was doing a Facebook Live the other day and I and I like announced, um, like I introduced myself and I was like, huh, that's like, that sounds so strange. So, you know, and this is all very recent for me because I, um, I've gone through a lot of life things like everybody does, I think. Started when my my mom passed away about six years ago. Then my dad passed away four years later. And then in March, my great auntie passed away. And, you know, that was like the end of a generation, the end of an era, let's say. And I was just about the time where I was saying to myself, I haven't had enough of feeling stuck, of feeling like I should be further ahead than I am and feeling like like I'm loving what I'm doing. I had I felt like I kind of lost the, you know, the motivation or, you know, that zest for what I was doing. And I couldn't figure out why. And grief is a crazy thing. So it shows up different for a lot of people. But I felt that I had just gone through a really kind of dark phase in my life because at the time I didn't realize this was going on. It's only looking back now that I can see that I wasn't happy. I was, you know, performing at maybe 50% as opposed to like 80% or, you know, things like that. And a couple of months ago, after my great auntie died, I made a decision that I was going that things were going to change. And here here's what I want people to get from that. Me making that decision, it's like we think we need to wait for things to change, but we can actually demand things for change. So if there's somebody watching the show today and you're feeling like this and you're waiting for something to change, you can demand that the change is going to happen now. So a couple of months ago, I made this decision and I chose to leave Donegal and from Ireland I travel a lot, but I haven't traveled as much since the pandemic.

Moira Ní Ghallachóir:
So I chose to travel to Croatia and I had no real reason to go to Croatia other than I went on Airbnb and thought, Yeah, that's a nice place. It's beside the beach. I'll go there. And I went there and it turned out that it was really it was very close to Bosnia. And Bosnia is where my mom, my mom's spiritual home was, not because she was from there, but she used to visit a town called Medjugorje where, you know, lots of like religious and Catholic people would go. And I was like and it was near her, her anniversary. And I was like, Oh, maybe that's why I'm drawn there. So I went there and because I was there, I went and I had I had this what could I call it, a spiritual experience of really like feeling like I was connecting with my mother. Lots of things were associated with her name the whole time I was there. It was crazy. And I just made a decision that I was going to start letting go of every single thing, every single thought, every single person, every single offer, every single aspect of my business that was not making me happy. So this is extreme. And yes, it's extreme, but this is only this has only been in the last two months. So this is all still quite raw for me. Birgitta By the time the two months was up, I had cleared my entire house, got rid of all of my clothes, ended my relationship, stopped selling offers I didn't like. I just cleared everything. And the last thing that I did and something that I've wanted to do for a long time was change my name. Not because, you know, I don't want to be attached to anything, but I just didn't like it. I didn't feel like it was a representation of who I'm becoming. So I chose a new name one day in the shower just came, popped in my head. I did some research, numerology, all the things, and I just like, boom, no more. Moira Gallagher I am now Moira Moran.

Brigitta Hoeferle:
What a great story. And that in itself. So it's so empowering when you let go of something and you actually get something from letting go. And I think that a lot of people like I had a conversation with one of my clients this morning and the letting go came up again. And and she says, But I need to be in control in order for my business to go the that the way that I want it to go. And and and I asked her, I challenged her and I said, what would happen if you wouldn't? Yeah. And she. Was like. What a concept I've never thought about. Now, you know, there's there's this we are letting go of many things and you let go of of your name stuff clothes. Some business ideas. Literally almost everything.

Moira Ní Ghallachóir:
And in the business thing, it was a lot of funnels, you know, it was a lot of things that took a long time to build. There was a lot of email sequence, like there was so much like, you know, when you think about this, I even like cleared out about 2000 people from my social media unsubscribe from all the mailing lists because it was just all of this is coming at you. And I'm like, I don't want that's not what I'm choosing, you know? But somewhere along the way I chose it. And it's like you're just sticking all these things and it's all coming with you. And before you know it, you're dragging this massive load around with you and you don't have any energy or space for anything new, even though what you're really crying out for is something new and different.

Brigitta Hoeferle:
Yeah, it feels heavy as you're saying it. It feels very like overload. I don't even hardly I can hardly put it in words. And what really triggered me when you were saying that was something that I remember in a Karl Lagerfeld documentary where he was when he was still alive and they did a documentary on Karl Lagerfeld of Karl Lagerfeld with him in it.

Moira Ní Ghallachóir:
And the way you say that, because that is not the way I see it. Karl Lagerfeld.

Brigitta Hoeferle:
Karl Lagerfeld. I mean, he's he's a fellow German. But see, that's the that's exactly why I was like, okay, she changed her name. Awesome. Because I will have the hardest time with the other last name. Anyway, Karl Lagerfeld, um, always destroyed his designs after they were implemented. So he would design it, they would implement it, and then he would destroy the drawing and the outline of the design. And I thought that was so first, when I saw it in the documentary, I thought, Well, that's stupid. And then when he when he explained why he's doing that and the reason for that is for him to not fall into a place of complacent complacency, to always think new, to always think more, to unclutter. And that's exactly what sparked when you were when you said what you said. It's that letting go of stuff so so new. Things. New business ideas. New relationships may come out of that. Yeah.

Moira Ní Ghallachóir:
Yeah, absolutely. And most of the time, we just don't have any space for that. And every like, the more I'm in business and the more I'm, you know, the more I'm in this human experience that we're all having. It's. It's all energy. Everything is energy. You know, I was talking about this in one of my posts today. Like it's like the energy we're bringing. There's so many people out there, especially in business. When you start your business, everybody like, they go through a phase and sometimes it can go on for years where people are just not saying yes to them. You know, they're struggling to close sales. They're hearing nos all the time and they're thinking it's a tactic, it's a strategy. I need this magical script when in actual fact it's usually because they're not saying yes to themselves and they're not they're not a full yes to themselves. So they're expecting other people to go all in on themselves and be yes to what they want to be, yes to their dreams. And then the person who's going to coach them is not saying yes to their dreams. And that doesn't work. It'll get you so far. But if you have goals where you want to have a much higher level, which I do like, at some point you need to look like, Why is that?

Brigitta Hoeferle:
You said something earlier and that is first, you know, letting go, letting go of control. But then you also said you can demand control. So there's this there's demand change.

Moira Ní Ghallachóir:
It was to demand change.

Brigitta Hoeferle:
Oh, demand change, Demand change. Yes, yes. Got it. Got it. So you can demand change and change is. So how does one talk to us more about that? How does how does one demand change?

Moira Ní Ghallachóir:
Yeah, well, exactly like the situation that I put myself in. I took myself out of my environment. I set myself a very powerful intention that I wanted my life to change. I wanted my business to change. I wanted my energy to change. I wanted my pricing to change. I wanted my offers to change. I wanted it all to just be different because I was just unmotivated and bored and stuck with it. So part of that, those two months while I was away, I spent an awful lot of time really thinking like, What is it that I really want? Tony Robbins says that one of the hardest questions for a human being to answer for themselves is What do you want? And it is, but it's not impossible if you allow yourself space to do that. So when I say demand, demand change, I left my my home. I set myself up somewhere else and I was like, this is what I want from this experience. I want things to change. So that's what I mean. And the whole time that I was there, everything was about What do I want? What are my dreams? Where do I see myself? What do I see as holding myself back? So I really created space to look at all that. And that was me demanding change. And, you know, that experience that I had while I was away. Like one of the things that I also demanded was I wanted a sign from my mom. It was her sixth anniversary, and I didn't know that I was going to get her or anything, but I was like, I want a sign. So when I went to this little village to, you know, retrace her steps of place, a place that she loved, first of all, I find a hotel called Hotel Grace. Her name was Grace for everybody. And in the hotel called Grace, I met somebody from Italy who invited me to a prayer meeting that it was like a a forgiveness sermon. It was a beautiful thing. He invited me to that. I had the most amazing healing experience where I felt like I had never cried for my mother passing in this in this ceremony. And then later that night, I go for dinner with all these people. They asked me my mom's name and they said, Do you know that we're from a town called Grace in Italy? Like, if that is not, that's.

Brigitta Hoeferle:
A huge sign.

Moira Ní Ghallachóir:
That's not. You're right. And after that, then I went on to Tuscany. I was running a retreat with my clients there, and there were two people that I kept I saw in the hotel lobby, and I thought, I really need to I don't know. There's something about this couple. I need to know them. And sure enough, we got together and, you know, it was like as if we were long lost friends. We hung out together almost every evening and introduced them to my clients. They introduced me to, like, amazing possibilities. And on the final night, they asked me about why did I chose choose Croatia? And I told them, And you'll never guess this Birgitta, You'll never guess what they said. Their faces dropped and they said, Do you know that we're from Havre de Grace three? Three. So when. I say you can demand it, you can. Demand this, but you've got to be open for the signs. I'm a you know, I was I follow I followed my intuition. If I hadn't have left to go on that trip that day, I wouldn't have met those people if I hadn't, you know, I wouldn't. So you've got to follow the signs. And I think that giving yourself space away from your environment, like clearing things out of your life that are not serving you and making you happy, this creates space for what you want, and there's nothing more important than what you want because you can serve your clients all day. But if you're not happy, oh, this is not going to work.

Brigitta Hoeferle:
If you're not in it, why should your client be into you if you're not excited about what you do? Why do you expect your client should be excited? Yes, absolutely. So you cleared the slate like like one clear one, one clearing of the slate. What's in store, Myra? Like, what's. What's possible?

Moira Ní Ghallachóir:
Well, for one thing, I'm no longer busy.

Brigitta Hoeferle:
And let's talk about busy here in a second. I'll let you talk, and then I want to come back to busy. Yes.

Moira Ní Ghallachóir:
I'm no longer busy because, you know, that month away helped me realize that I've cleared my calendar. I'm not I'm not doing all of the stuff I was doing and I made more money than I had been making. So I was just like, Well, if that's what happens when I do that, that's what I'm doing now. So I'm very, very, very particular with what gets on my calendar now. I'm not just doing like this, that or whatever. I actually discontinued almost every single mastermind program course that I was doing because again, there were just stuff I wasn't really getting anything out of it. So I'm no I'm no longer busy and I'm only doing things that I love if it's not fun, inspiring, and I feel like excitement, it's not happening because there's no point, you know, because I will bring my A-game if it's not like that. You know, like this, for example, I knew when I saw the show, I was like, Oh, she seems cool. In fact, I've seen like, we look. I mean, look at us.

Brigitta Hoeferle:
We're like long lost twins.

Moira Ní Ghallachóir:
Like, that's definitely a yes. Let's totally do that, you know? And like, right now I'm hosting a masterclass series with my coach. And, um, it was just it was like, this is something I want to do. I want to I want to introduce, you know, what I'm learning. And you know what she's helped me with to my people. And I thought that would make me really excited. Let's do it. And I don't like I don't do things like that. Most coaches don't do things like that because they're like, you know, they kind of want to keep who's who's helping them kind of hidden and things like that. And I'm just like, No, I want to, like, share the magic. Come on, let's do this. And the response for that was absolutely phenomenal. I never had such a high signup rate for a paid event in a short space of time than any other event because I was all in and I was so excited about it. So like I said, somewhere along the way, over the last few years, life did happen and it took me off that. And maybe at some you kind of think that when you lose people that you need to be unhappy for a while, but where do you stop? You know, where do you draw the line there? So I drew the line boundaries.

Brigitta Hoeferle:
Busy. Talk to me. Talk to me about busy versus productive Yeah What's the difference?

Moira Ní Ghallachóir:
Yeah. So it's like like is what you're doing in this moment going to get you to the result that you want. So what is going on your calendar like? What's filling up your time? Like go through it. Each thing, each thing that you're doing, each item on your calendar, is this going to get me the result that I want? If you're new in entrepreneurship, it should all be cash generating activities. Is this going to create clients? Is this going to create what I need? My income goals? And if it's not, then it needs to go in the everything else category because that is not your priority. And like these days, like obviously I've grown my business to a certain level, but it's like actually making more money when you get to a certain level and like it's it's actually easier. It's not about being busier, it's about doing better. It's about doing better work with the time that you have and also about really valuing your own time. And I think for anybody watching, like if you don't value your own time, you're going to find this really difficult because most of the time we don't value our own time. And I've had I've learned my own lessons with that. But if we don't value our time, nobody else will.

Brigitta Hoeferle:
So it comes back to being congruent. It comes back to us, me being a mirror outward and everything that I love and joy that I stand for, that I that I breathe, that's what I'm attracting. And if I don't like myself, if I'm not congruent with myself, if I'm not sure if that's the right thing, if I'm not certain that actually what I am doing is going to is a is a great way of serving humanity that's going to reflect outward. And then, you know, some people might wonder, well, why am I not getting the clients? Why am I not attracting the people that I that I owe so carefully wrote out in my avatar? Because there's there's a lack of congruency. There's no alignment.

Moira Ní Ghallachóir:
Yeah, absolutely. We absolutely get what we are, not what we want. We get who we isn't.

Brigitta Hoeferle:
Isn't that true? I'm going to do a little bit of a rapid fire with you if you would play along. I'm going to give you some words and then you'll just quickly shout out what comes to mind. A word, a phrase, a sentence. First, one mindset.

Moira Ní Ghallachóir:
Necessary.

Brigitta Hoeferle:
Travel.

Moira Ní Ghallachóir:
Passion.

Brigitta Hoeferle:
Future.

Moira Ní Ghallachóir:
Out of this world hate. Not necessary.

Brigitta Hoeferle:
Well.

Moira Ní Ghallachóir:
Crucial.

Brigitta Hoeferle:
Modeling.

Moira Ní Ghallachóir:
Essential.

Brigitta Hoeferle:
Passion.

Moira Ní Ghallachóir:
Oh, can't live without.

Brigitta Hoeferle:
Acceptance.

Moira Ní Ghallachóir:
Oh, essential. Necessary. Can't live without it.

Brigitta Hoeferle:
Yeah. Imagine the two of us would go in a time capsule and we would travel into the future. And eventually, you know, we would come out somewhere.

Moira Ní Ghallachóir:
Are luxurious, I hope.

Brigitta Hoeferle:
Some were fun, fun and luxurious for sure. I think that's that's the common denominator with us too. Um, what do you want to tell the people in the future?

Moira Ní Ghallachóir:
Um, I want to tell people in the future that it's not about pushing and struggling and working harder, because working harder does not create wealth. We've tried that. We've been programed that it is because if we were programed for freedom and we were programed to make a lot of money, it's not the way the powers that be want the world. That's not how they want it to look. And I would love to say that every I would love to be saying that every single thing that you want is absolutely possible if you're going to if you can just allow yourself to receive it and believe that you're worthy of it.

Brigitta Hoeferle:
Yeah, that's beautiful. I actually have a little permission slip that I give my clients if they need permission to do something. It's just a blank permission slip and I send it to them and I say, You give your permission. You give yourself permission for anything that you want. They're like, Oh, that's cool. Yeah, I will give myself permission to go and have a massage to actually not work this afternoon or whatever it is that they want to give themselves permission for.

Moira Ní Ghallachóir:
And you know, and that, you know, like I've given myself permission to like fully own my morning up until like 12:00, you know, and I might get up at six, I might get up at seven, I might lie on if I want to, but I do not beat myself up if my body feels like I need to sleep, but I just give myself permission to do whatever I want in the morning so that I'm really setting myself up to win for the hours that I am going to be present at work.

Brigitta Hoeferle:
You know that that would also mean that you let go of I think you said it earlier of the of the three, the Trinity of regret woulda, coulda, shoulda um and literally not should all over yourself. So we did a time travel into the future. Let's let's take the resources let's take the goodness, let's take all of the wonderful things that you have learned along the journey and travel in the past. What are you going to tell younger Moira.

Moira Ní Ghallachóir:
Oh, without a doubt. I would tell her just to trust herself. Trust your feelings. If something doesn't feel right, it's not. And don't doubt that.

Brigitta Hoeferle:
Mhm.

Moira Ní Ghallachóir:
I think if we, if we as women, as business owners could just trust, trust ourselves and trust that if we're doing something and it's not working, then maybe it's just not what you're supposed to be doing. It doesn't mean that you're bad or wrong or maybe and that's when you can allow something better to come along, you know? But unfortunately, like for many of us, we'll just push and push and push because we're driven and we're ambitious. And that's a great thing too. But it shouldn't be hard.

Brigitta Hoeferle:
There it is again. Yeah, that. Should. You have so much. Rich nuggets. And I trust you with my viewers with my following. People want to get in touch with you. People want to learn from you. How do they get in touch with you? How will they learn from you?

Moira Ní Ghallachóir:
So out on Facebook, most I'm posting stories and posts there all the time. I go live. So absolutely come and friend me on Facebook. I just cleared out about 2000 people because I had no room for friends. So you can connect with it there. And also on Instagram, hang out on Instagram a lot as well. And if you hear me on the show, I'd love to hear to hear what your takeaway was from it. So send me a DM Yeah.

Brigitta Hoeferle:
Fantastic. So get with Moira on Instagram and on Facebook. And I also see that we got some good comments here. Great advice from Richard Peak. Loving the show. Absolutely fantastic. Thank you, Mara, for being here With what last words or last advice would you want to leave us today?

Moira Ní Ghallachóir:
Oh. Put yourself first. That you and what you want first. Because even and I mean that even over your clients put yourself first because if you're not you're going to you're not going to be you're not going to be 100% and you want to bring 100% to the table. So put yourself first and everything.

Brigitta Hoeferle:
You Yeah love. That. One of my clients said this past week, Don't set yourself on fire to keep other people warm around you.

Moira Ní Ghallachóir:
Oh, I like it.

Brigitta Hoeferle:
That's powerful. I was like, Oh, I'm going to remember that one. I like it. Thank you for being here. Thank you for being part of the Success Pattern Show. Guys, Thank you for tuning in and learning through our guest experts. Tune in again and spread the word. Get in touch with everyone. That's our guest expert. Make sure that you connect with us on Instagram, YouTube, Facebook and we will see each other again for next week's Success Pattern Show. Thanks, Mara.

Moira Ní Ghallachóir:
Thank you so much, Bridget. I really loved this conversation with you.

Brigitta Hoeferle:
Me too.

Moira Ní Ghallachóir:
Yeah.

Brigitta Hoeferle:
Thank you for tuning in. And you will notice opportunities to apply success patterns daily while eagerly anticipating next week's content rich success patterns.

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